체코 3월이 되면서 조금 날씨가 따뜻해지나 싶었더니. 프라하 날씨가 지금 영하 5도 입니다. 

한겨울 외투를 다시 꺼내 입었어요. 
도대체 햇빛은 언제 나는 건지요~~ 정말 기나긴 프라하의 겨울입니다. 


체코에 여행 오신 분들은 아시겠지만 프라하에서 3시간정도 버스를 타고가면 

아름다운 마을 체스키크룸로프가 있는데요. 프라하말고도 한국분들이 여행 많이 가십니다. 


어제 체스키크룸로프에 1시간에 4cm 폭설이 내리고.눈보라가 휘몰아치고 그랬다네요. 


남편 직장 상사분이 체스키 크룸로브에 계셨는데. 

어제 프라하로 올라오려다가 결국 고속도로도 차단되어 몇시간 도로 정리 될때까지 기다렸대요. 


그런데 그렇게 눈보라가 휘몰아치는데ㅡ 

체스키크룸로프를 여행하는 여행객들이 보이더라는거죠. 


'이렇게 눈보라가 몰아치는데 여행을 하다니 !! '


이렇게 생각하고는 가까이서 말하는걸 들어보니 한국 사람들이었대요. 

정말 의지의 한국인이에요~~ ^^ 멋져요!!! 



체스키 크룸로프에서 호스텔과 식당을 운영하는 남편의 상사가 궁금하신 분들은


[체코 CZECH] - 체코인 보스에게 한국이란?



남편은 상사한테 이렇게 말씀드렸대요. 


"한국 대부분 직장인들은 휴가를 받는 것도 자유롭지 않고,1년에 1주일 정도밖에 휴가를 받지 못하니유럽에 온 이상 최대한 다 보고 가야되요. " 


남편이 말이 사실이라 더 씁쓸하네요. 

눈보라를 헤치고 여행다닐 만큼 '강한 의지의 한국분들께',,,,,,,

오늘은 미루고 미뤘던 남편의 포스팅을 하려고 합니다. 

이 주제를 가지고 남편이 제가 블로깅 시작하며 계속 쓰라고 했는데. 

제가 안 쓰자 결국 자기가 쓸테니 포스팅하라고 해서 하게 되었습니다. 

남편의 글이라 영어라는 점 양해 부탁드리고요. 


제 블로그의 검열관(?)인 남편은 

제가 블로그에 좋은 내용만 주로 쓰기 때문에 사람들한테 체코 생활에 대한 환상을 심어주는 거 아닌가 걱정했거든요. 

혹시나 체코여행을 하시면서 프라하가 그리워서,,, 체코 가서 살아볼까? 라고 생각하고 계신 분들에게ㅡ

체코에서 생활은 현실이라서, 여행의 아름다운 기억과 다를 수 있다고 말씀드리려고 포스팅합니다. 

글이 길어서 2번에 거쳐 포스팅 할예정이고요. 
직설적인 남편의 성격에 따라 굉장히 솔직하고 직선적 표현이 많습니다. 

다른 사람의 쓴소리에 마음 약하신 분들은 안 읽으셔도 되요~~ 

하지만 체코로 이민이 아니더라도요, 

해외이민이나 해외생활. 해외취업을 고민하고 계시다면, 한 번 읽어보셨으면 하는 제 바람입니다.  

생활 국가를 옮기는 거 쉽지 않은 결정이니까요...

여러 사람의 이야기도 들어보고 본인의 상황도 심사숙고해서 결정 잘~~~ 하시길 바랄게요. 


   집 떠나면 고생이라 잖아요. There's no place like home. 


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Dear readers!

First of all thank you very much for visiting this blog. It is (most of the time) fun to read.

I do from time to time try to get through some articles although I still struggle with Korean language and it is interesting and fun to read about how the cultures so different can mix and clash and interact.

Unfortunately, sometimes I’m afraid it might be too much fun read.

 

From this point, I will be very honest so if you are not ready to face it please close down this positing.


Alright, Ladies.  Do you know why most men don’t like to watch romantic movies with you?

Well, there is no shooting and no aliens. It is simply booooring to men!

But more importantly: movies, similar to books and songs and… BLOGS…

show life stories much simpler than they really are, they make everything look so easy, so perfect, so sweet.


The Hero will in the end show up in his white Mercedes with bouquet of roses, explain that the other girl was just his sister helping him to pick the right wedding ring, not a lover, and he will take the Lady for that trip to Caribbean she always wanted.


Now your boyfriend and me, we don’t like to watch those movies and we actually don‘t want you to watch them either, because as ordinary men, we don’t own white Mercedes and we don’t have a month of vacation to spend.


The movie doesn’t show you how the Hero had to work 18 hours a day to get all that stuff, and it doesn’t show you how many failed relationships the Lady had before she met the right guy.

Because nobody would watch it and it only lasts for 2 hours, so we need a shortcut.

The movie makes it look so easy, that sometimes, and that is why we –men- are nervous around romantic movies, sometimes ladies tend to expect these things, or something similar to happen in real life.

 

I sometimes try to read this blog, struggling with Korean I have to have my dictionary open and slowly chew word by word.  Me and my wife talk about the stuff described on this blog at home quite often – the difference between cultures, the difference between people here in Europe and back in Korea, how so many things work in such different ways.


As I said, it is fun to read… just like it is fun to watch a movie, 

but please please please, don’t forget that the blog is also a simplified shortcut


There is a happy ending, a married couple living in a stable life after they went through some little struggle. 

But we didn’t see all the trouble my wife and me had to go through to make this happen, 

and please believe me there was a lot.


Please let me tell you what my wife and me have been through.

When I met my wife, I lived in Korea for few years already but I wouldn’t dare to say I fully understood the country or the people.  I think I can say I loved them.  And I still do. I love 고추장, seafood. 

I like to watch 런닝맨 as you know if you read this blog, I love my new family although it is not always easy to communicate. I admire the effort Koreans put into everything they do.


Actually my future wife refused to go out with me 3 maybe 4 times before she finally agreed to have one quick coffee with me. It took another 2 months to get her to go for an actual date. And then we were together for two more years in Korea, then I had to leave Korea when we were not ready for separation.


The next year and a half, we only spent maybe 4 weeks together when she came to Prague to see me or when I went to Seoul to see her. The rest was only Skype, MSN… 


It was the most difficult time of my life and everything I could think of at that time was to save up some money to bring her here because there was very little chance that I can find a job and move back to Korea.


Time difference was a trouble too. To have a call with her, I had to rush home after work when it’s around 1 or 2 am in Korea. She was still awake, waiting for me to call although she had to wake up to work herself in only few hours. 

We talk until she falls asleep. 


Then I jump on the internet, looking for information –


* How long can she legally stay in Czech Republic with Korean passport?


* What kind of visa can she get?


* Are there any job offers for her?


* Any apartments we can afford in case mine will be the only income for long time?


* What’s a good language school for foreigners?


* How about insurance?


* Are there any Korean grocery stores in case she gets craving for Korean food?


* What cellphone should she be using, when most phones here don’t support 한글 

and Korean applications?

 

So many things to go through and still, when it finally happened and my wife left everything she had at home, family, friends, her beloved puppies and a job she enjoyed so much… it felt like we were not prepared at all!


The next 7 months was almost as difficult as the separation time, you can read about the struggles with immigration and many other issues around this blog, but to put it simply we both were under much stress, we got depressed easily and then argued.  And we were so worried so couldn’t sleep well during this whole time.


It was not a movie at all. 



다음 이야기가 이어집니다.

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  1. 푸른. 2013.03.28 04:25 신고  댓글주소  수정/삭제  댓글쓰기

    정말 잘 읽었어요 프라하새댁님... 저도 저의 친구와 가족이 있는 나라에서 다른 곳으로 간다면 정말 힘들것 같아요... 강아지까지...ㅠ_ㅠ 님도 남편분도 정말 대단하세요...!! 다음 포스팅도 기대됩니다....!
    아... 그 관광객은 정말 의지의 한국인이었군요...!! 그것도 눈바람이 몰아치는 한겨울에...! 저도 유럽(런던)에 일주일 있었을때 돈을 아끼고 싶어서 스프를 자주 먹었고, 볼건 너무 많은데 시간이 없어서 스프 먹는 시간조차 아깝더라구요...

    • 프라하밀루유 2013.03.30 18:02 신고  댓글주소  수정/삭제

      푸른님 안녕하세요~~
      오랜만에 전화해서 차 한잔에 입 아프도록 수다 나눌 친구,,,
      민망해서 사랑표현은 잘 못하지만 늘 든든한 가족들과...
      제가 뭐 그렇게 좋은지 쓰레기만 버리러 나갔다 와도 볼때마다 꼬리 흔들어주는 강아지들이랑 ....

      다 놓고 떠나올 만큼 사랑에 콩깍지가 씌였답니다 ^^
      아! 올해는 강아지 2마리를 체코로 데려 올 예정이에요. 아마 제 블로그에 강아지 사진으로 도배되지는 않을련지 ㅎㅎㅎ

      근데 여전히 그 상황으로 돌아가도 같은 결정을 내렸을 것 같아요.
      제가 옆에 없는 사이에 남편이 아프지는 않을지, 힘든 일 있지 않을지. 걱정 많이했거든요.

      눈바람을 헤치고 여행다니는 모습이 한국사람들한테 익숙하지만
      느긋한 체코사람들이 봤을 때는 엄청 놀랐을 것 같아요.
      유럽이 이것저것 볼 게 많아서, 시간이 휙휙 가는 것 같긴해요.
      더군다나 겨울에는 오후 4시면 해가 지거든요. 그래서 더 열심히 돌아다녀야하는 것 같아요.

  2. 2013.10.12 02:21  댓글주소  수정/삭제  댓글쓰기

    비밀댓글입니다

  3. 2015.01.04 05:45  댓글주소  수정/삭제  댓글쓰기

    비밀댓글입니다

    • 프라하밀루유 2015.01.05 01:37 신고  댓글주소  수정/삭제

      안녕하세요. 체코에 사시다보면 뉴질랜드와 다르게 불편한 상황을 많이 겪으실 수 있을거에요.
      그리고 체코에서 생활하시려면 체코어 능력이 중요해서요
      체코어 때문에 스스로 하고 싶은 일을 못하게 되는 손발이 묶인 경험을 하실수 있고,
      체코 생활에 정착하는데 남자친구분이 많이 고생하실거에요.

      남편의 이야기가 주된 글이라, 남편한테 댓글을 부탁했습니다.
      조금 길지만 천천히 읽어보시고 참고하셨으면 좋겠어요.

      Hi! Well, to be honest I'm not sure I can give you better information than Google :)
      Indeed for visa information all you need to do is visit the Ministry of Interior website, they explain everything pretty comprehensively there, my only recommendation would be to use the Czech language version of the web, the other language versions are fine too but occasionally confuse some specific terms which might cause trouble in later communication with them.

      I'm not sure what visa you would be going for, if it is student visa and you intend to attend language school then I'd strongly recommend the language program of the Charles University in Prague (UJOP) or perhaps any other public uni program, the private ones are rarely any good to say the truth, very dodgy with money and they tend to be unresponsive once any problems arise. Also be careful about which ones are actually certified by the Ministry of Education, majority is not and enrolling in those will not allow you to get visa.

      If you plan on getting any other form of long term visa the process gets pretty specific so probably not necessary to explain here, if you plan to look for a job and working visa then of course you will need nostrified and translated all your education records, criminal records and so on, depending on where you studied you might also need the papers "apostilled" - information on those things again can be found on government websites, Ministry of Education mostly.

      If you are going for long term visa without work, I'll just be honest with you - you will need to get married :) There is a theoretical possibility of getting it without being married, they even mention it in all the official papers, but honestly it just doesn't happen, the process is the same but the commity just won't approve in the last step. Good news is it is pretty easy to get a marriage recognized here even if it happened outside of the EU. Again, follow the instructions on the Ministry of Interior website and you will be fine.

      As per insurance, not much to say either, as a third country citizen (unless employed here) you won't have much choice anyway, the commercial insurance companies will insure you without problems. The coverage might be a bit limited with the basic programs so I'd say if possible for you go for some premium to be safe, up for your consideration.

      Outside of that, just prepare for very uncomfortable and frustrating time, especially if you plan on staying longer than 3-6 months. It is a thorough investigation into your private life, waking up 5 am to wait in unbelievably long hours at the immigration police and many other joyful things you might find mentioned around this blog, even more so if looking for a job - assuming you hold a Korean or New Zealand citizenship it is very difficult for a Czech-company to hire you, they are legally obliged to wait for several months and offer the job to EU citizens first, before third-country nationals become eligible...and so on.

      As per Korean groceries, that is the one thing you will get without any issues here, there is at least 6 Korean stores around Prague. Btw, I'm writing all this assuming you would be based in Prague, if not then it is all the above except you probably will have extremely hard time finding a job or a decent school at all.

      I feel like it really wold be fair to warn you at this point that the life of a foreigner here really comes with a lot of difficulties on a number of different levels. I have nothing but sympathy for people following their heart, that being said it really is quite often a big pain to live here for non-EU nationals once you see past the Castle and the Old Town. Sounds bitter, we just have seen way too many unhappy people leaving disappointed and hurt.

      Best of luck though!

  4. 휴식 2017.11.29 18:51  댓글주소  수정/삭제  댓글쓰기

    왜 번역을 안해주셨을까 생각하다가, 이민을 생각하시는 분들이라면 영어는 다들 잘 하시겠구나 라고 생각해봅니다. 공부좀 더 하고 읽어야갰네요. 이 글은 패스할깨요 ㅠㅠ

    • 프라하밀루유 2017.11.30 00:03 신고  댓글주소  수정/삭제

      네, 어느정도 의도적으로 영어로 남겨두었습니다. 어느 국가로 이민을 가시든, 해외생활에서 영어없이 살기는 불편하거든요.

      공부 더 하셔서, 쏙쏙 이해하시기를 바랄게요!